How do I tackfully explain to my coworker that I do not like the way them treats me at social events

I work with a person, when we are in the office. But everytime we have been at social events (ie: Christmas parties) they thinks it is funny to insult me. One incident:

another coworker - "so Southerngirl, what are you doing after graduation?"

Me -"Well..." when my coworker interupts

coworker - Mmm. this is good cake.

Me - "...I am going....

coworker - did you hear me? This is great cake.

Me -" ...to head ..."

coworker- "faboulous cake. Let me tell you all..."

I simply smile and let them talk. After a few minutes they look at me and says "Oh! Were you trying to say something?"

I just walked away. Later the original coworker who asked came up and apologized, and I answered her question.

After the incident, I spoke to the coworker about it. Thier response: "I was just teasing. Everyone knows that I was just joking with you."

This is not an isolated incident. It happens at every social event I attend. I have tried not attending, but I am required to be at some.

How do I tackfully explain to my coworker that I do not like the way them treats me at social events?imax theater

It's not as easy as some might think to change people's behavior. So you need to change yours. In the words of Dr. Phil, "We teach people how to treat us". Thats true, we do. When I was a young 19yr old rookie officer, I was unsure at times and would let people get the best of me sometimes with their smart elic responses or attitudes. I figured out that it was usually because I wasn't 100% certain of all the legalities involved, not just the written law; but the case law from similar court cases and my rights as a peace officer from the state law that protected me from local political decisions and such policies that might contradict my duties empowered to me by the state. Once I became well educated in my protections as an officer under state and federal laws, and kept up to date with case law modificatiuons of codified law; I was much more confident. I never again allowed anyone to abuse me or take advantage of me. I treat them as I would want to be treated and can handle some verbal abuse from frustrated citizens, but only to a point. Other officers who do this have been ordered to change reports in the past such as accident reports, or arrest report charges; and are no longer in the comand staff, instead facing prosecution by the DA.

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